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Getting to know your partner questions
One of the most important things in a relationship is learning about your partner. You can know what to expect from them and can figure out if you two are a good match.
- SavedWhat's your ideal way to spend a vacation?
- SavedWhat makes you dislike a person?
- SavedDo you think you are a confident person? Why or why not?
- SavedWhat about yourself are you most proud of?
- SavedWhat would the best version of you be like?
- SavedWhat life experiences did you miss out on?
- SavedWhen are you the most "you"?
- SavedWhat musical instrument do you wish you could play?
- SavedWhat is the nicest compliment you've received?
- SavedWhat age would you like to live to?
- SavedHow did you fall out with some of your previously close friends?
- SavedWhen has a mundane occurrence or chance completely changed the course of your life?
- SavedAre you happy with the people you surround yourself with? Why or why not?
- SavedIf you could travel to any country in the world for one month, where would you go?
- SavedWhat is your favorite memory of someone who isn't in your life anymore?
- SavedHow superstitious are you?
- SavedWhat has been a recurring theme in your life?
- SavedWhat was your most inappropriate or embarrassing fart?
- SavedWhat do you think happens after death?
- SavedWhat are your top 5 rules for life?
- SavedWhat's your favorite thing in your / our house?
- SavedWhat book or movie do you wish you could experience for the first time again?
- SavedIf you had a friend who spoke to you the same way you speak to yourself, would you keep them as a friend?
- SavedWhat petty thing that people do really gets on your nerves?
- SavedWhat brings meaning to your life?
- SavedWhat is something you wish you could say to people but can’t?
- SavedWhat are some of the most attractive traits a person can have?
- SavedWhat's a secret you've never told anyone?
- SavedWhat small pleasures do you enjoy the most?
- SavedWho is the most irritating person you know?
- SavedWhat has been your biggest screw up so far?
- SavedWhat have you struggled with your entire life?
- SavedWhat is the most significant change you would like to make in your life?
- SavedWhat do you want out of life?
- SavedWhat calms you down the most?
- SavedWhat are kinds of things do you find repulsive?
- SavedWhat would your perfect life look like?
- SavedIf you received a salary to follow whatever passion you wanted to, what would you do?
- SavedWhat's your most embarrassing story about being sick?
- SavedWhat friend have you not thought about in a long time?
- SavedWhat's the craziest thing that has happened at a job you worked at?
- SavedWho do you act nice around but secretly dislike?
- SavedIf money was no object, and with no input from me, how would you decorate your / our house?
- SavedHow good are you at reading people?
- SavedAre you hopeful about your future?
- SavedWho do you want to be more like or who do you look up to most?
- SavedWhat were the healthiest and unhealthiest periods of your life?
- SavedWhat's the worst emotional or mental anguish you've endured?
- SavedWhat do you like most about where we live?
- SavedWhat do you worry about?
- SavedWhat's something you screwed up and then tried to hide?
- SavedWhat's the scariest / creepiest place you have ever been?
- SavedDo you think the world is improving or getting worse? Why?
- SavedHow do you think society is changing? Do you think we'll change with it?
- SavedWhat’s the worst thing that people are proud of?
- SavedWhat’s the biggest betrayal you have ever experienced?
- SavedWhat would be the greatest gift to receive?
- SavedWhat is something that you are dreading?
- SavedWhat makes you feel super fancy?
- SavedWhat would you want your obituary to say?
- SavedWhat has taken up too much of your life?
- SavedWhat’s the most disheartening and heartening realization you have come to?
- SavedWhat was the hardest lesson you’ve had to learn?
- SavedWould you take 3 million dollars if it meant that the person you hate most in the world gets 9 million?
- SavedWhat part of you as a person still needs a lot of work?
- SavedWhat are some words of wisdom that have stuck with you all these years?
- SavedHow well do you know yourself?
- SavedWhat is your best (not worst) flaw?
- SavedHow forgiving are you?
- SavedTell me about a time you almost died.
- SavedAre you ashamed of anything you did in the past? If you are comfortable talking about it, what was it?
- SavedDo you prefer living in the countryside, in a town, or in a big city? Why?
- SavedWhat's your fondest memory of a tree?
- SavedWhat are some of the most pleasant sensations for you?
- SavedAre you happy with the career path you chose or do you wish you had chosen a different career?
- SavedWhat's the most unethical thing you do regularly?
- SavedWhat is way more difficult than it sounds?
- SavedWhat job do you think you were born to do?
- SavedWhat's the biggest financial mistake you've made?
- SavedWhat makes you lose faith in humanity when you think about it?
- SavedWhat was the most painful thing to hear?
- SavedWhat biases do you think you have?
- SavedWhat are you battling that you don’t tell anyone about?
- SavedWhat luxury do you enjoy treating yourself to?
- SavedWhat do you most like to do when you have alone time?
- SavedWhat is normal now that will be considered unethical and barbaric in 100 years?
- SavedWhen you're gone when you want to be remembered for?
- SavedIf there was a horrible accident and you were unconscious and on life support, how long would you want to be on life support?
- SavedDo you believe in good luck and bad luck? How about things that are lucky or unlucky?
- SavedIf you had a million dollars to give to any charity, what type of charity would you give it to?
- SavedWhat's something that a lot of people are afraid of, but you aren't?
- SavedIf you could open a business what type of business would you open?
- SavedWhat can someone do that makes them immediately unattractive to you, no matter how attractive they are physically?
- SavedWhat untrue thing did you believe for an incredibly long time?
- SavedWhat were the three most important turning points in your life?
- SavedWhat animal are you most afraid of?
- SavedWhat scandal happened in your neighbor or town when you were growing up?
- SavedHow well do you think you would handle prison?
- SavedWhat's the most awkward social situation you've been in?
- SavedWhat is something that scares you on a daily basis?
- SavedWhen was the last time you cried?
- SavedWhat's the most peaceful/restful night of sleep you've had?
- SavedWhat's the most dangerous, thrill-seeking thing you would consider doing?
- SavedWhat's your biggest regret?
- SavedIs it better to trust people or not trust people? And why?
- SavedWhat do you think your best and worst personality traits are?
- SavedWho do you miss the most?
- SavedWhat is the hardest life lesson you've had to learn?
- SavedWhat do you take for granted?
- SavedWhat's the most stressful situation you've been in? How did you handle it?
- SavedWhat's the most ambitious thing you've attempted?
- SavedWhat does you perfect date look like?
- SavedHow often do you change your opinions or how you view the world?
- SavedWhat's the biggest opportunity you were given?
- SavedWhat is something we should enjoy more because it won't be around for long?
- SavedWhat's a question you wish people would ask more often?
- SavedWhat is the saddest thing about your life that nobody knows?
- SavedWhat are you most sentimental about?
- SavedDo you think people more people look down on you or up to you? Why?
- SavedWhat question do you most want an answer to?
- SavedWhat are some of the telltale signs of a shallow person?
- SavedWhat do you look forward to most in the day?
- SavedIf you could instantly learn a talent or skill, what would you want to know how to do?
- SavedWhen is your favorite time of day?
- SavedWhat are the best and worst things about the period of history we are living through?
- SavedWhat's the most rewarding thing in your daily routine?
- SavedWhat weird thing stresses you out more than it should?
- SavedWhen do you feel like you are really in your element?
- SavedHow likely are you to believe in conspiracy theories?
- SavedWhat are some alcohol-induced stories of your younger days?
- SavedWhat's the best way for someone to improve themselves?
- SavedWhat was the most productive time in your life? How about the least productive?
- SavedWhat three words best describe you?
- SavedHow well do you function under a lot of pressure?
- SavedWhat is your weakness?
- SavedWhat are two of the most important events in your life?
- SavedWhat is something you know is bad for you but you can't seem to get away from it?
- SavedWhat's the biggest favor you've done for someone?
- SavedHow does your current morning routine compare to your ideal morning routine?
- SavedWhat brings you the most joy?
- SavedWhat are you purposefully ignoring even though you know you should probably deal with it?
- SavedWhat do you wish you were better at?
- SavedIs there anything you did wrong for years and years, only to discover later that you were doing it wrong?
We also have a page of questions to get to know someone that should be helpful.
Questions about their family and childhood
When you are looking for relationship questions, it’s always important to ask about family and childhood. Knowing where your partner came from can help you understand how they are now.
- SavedWhat is something your parents did or used to do that really embarrassed you?
- SavedWhat small seemingly insignificant thing did your parents, or someone else say when you were a child that has stuck with you all this time?
- SavedWhat is the best or worst thing you inherited from your parents?
- SavedWhat made you realize that your parents were just human like everyone else?
- SavedWhat habits do you still have from childhood?
- SavedWhat family vacations did you take as a child?
- SavedHow traditionally “normal” was your family?
- SavedChildren are often very similar to their parents. How do you want to be different than your parents? And how do you want to be similar to them?
- SavedWhat school subjects did you like and hate most when you were in school?
- SavedWhat unique game of pretend did you frequently play as a child?
- SavedWhat movie seriously scarred you as a child or as an adult?
- SavedWhat irrational fears did you have as a child?
- SavedWhat toy played the most significant part in your childhood?
- SavedWhat are some of your earliest memories?
Relationship questions
Here are the main questions for couples that deal with the relationship itself. It’s important to be non-judgmental when asking and answering these questions. It’s not about telling your partner the things they do wrong or the things you want from them. It’s about working together as a couple to build a healthy relationship.
- SavedWhat is something I did that you thought was exceptionally kind or thoughtful?
- SavedWhat new hobbies or activities would you like to try together as a couple?
- SavedWhat's our greatest strength as a couple?
- SavedWhat could we do to make our relationship stronger?
- SavedWhat is something small that we can do daily for each other to make our lives better?
- SavedHow much space / alone time should people in a relationship give each other?
- SavedWhat questions should partners ask each other before getting married?
- SavedWhat do I do that makes you the happiest?
- SavedHow important is it for individuals in a relationship to maintain their own separate identity?
- SavedWhat makes our relationship better than other relationships?
- SavedWhat do you think our life will look like in 10 years?
- SavedWhat do you think would bring us closer together as a couple?
- SavedWhat kind of memories do you want to make together?
- SavedHow often would you like to go out on a date?
- SavedWhat do you think the most essential thing in a successful relationship is?
- SavedWhat's your favorite way we spend time together?
- SavedWhat's your favorite gift I've given you?
- SavedWhere do you want to live when we retire?
- SavedIn what areas do you think our personalities complement each other? (i.e. One is too reckless, and the other is too cautious, and it balances out to a happy medium.)
- SavedHow well do you think we communicate?
- SavedWhat adventure would you like to go on with me?
- SavedWhat's the best relationship advice you've received?
- SavedWhat are some things you really like about me?
- SavedWhat do you think the hardest thing about marriage/being in a relationship is?
- SavedWhat can I do to most help us?
- SavedWhat do you see as your role in our relationship?
- SavedWhat would be a deal breaker for our relationship, something you couldn't forgive?
- SavedWhat makes us different than other couples?
- SavedWhat do you think would be the best way to strengthen our relationship?
- SavedWhat are some of your relationship goals?
- SavedHow realistic do you think couples in movies and TV are?
- SavedWhat does a happy and healthy relationship look like to you?
Couple questions about sex
Sex is an important topic to talk about in any relationship. It’s important to know what each of you considers a healthy and enjoyable sex life.
- SavedHow well do you think our sex drives match up?
- SavedHow important do you think sex is in our relationship?
- SavedWhat are you into, but haven’t told me about?
- SavedWhat do I do in bed that drives you wild?
- SavedWhat is the most adventurous thing you've done sexually?
- SavedBesides orgasms, what is the best part of sex?
- SavedWhat’s the most embarrassing thing that has happened to you while having sex?
- SavedWhen am I at my sexiest?
- SavedWhat would you like me to do in the bedroom to spice things up a bit?
- SavedWhat’s better than great sex?
- SavedWhat do I do outside the bedroom that turns you on?
Couple questions about having kids
It is vital that a couple is on the same page when it comes to kids. There can be a lot of strife and heartache in a relationship if one partner absolutely wants kids and the other doesn’t, or if you both have wildly different expectations for raising children.
- SavedDo you eventually want to have children? How many children do you eventually want? Why?
- SavedWhat's the worst parenting mistake a couple can make?
- SavedWhat is the best way to raise children?
- SavedHow would we know if we did our job as parents well?
- SavedDo you think it is more important for a couple with kids to focus on the kids more or each other more? Why?
- SavedHow do you think having kids will / has changed our lives and relationship?
PDF and Image of Questions for couples
Here is a copy of the questions for couples in PDF format.
And here is an image of the questions for couples.
