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825 This or That Questions

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This or that questions are a great way to get to know someone or a great way to just burn some time. The list is split into sections now, from funny and food to teens, couples and a set of hard ones. And if you are looking for a kid friendly list, we also have this or that questions for kids.

Everyday this or that questions

These are great for teens, students, adults, anyone really.

  1. Couch or Recliner?
  2. Shoes On or Shoes Off?
  3. Coffee Cup or Thermos?
  4. Snooze or Get Up?
  5. Go to: Lemonade Stand or Coffee Shop?
  6. Campfire or Fireplace?
  7. Sleeping: Socks On or Socks Off?
  8. Text or Call?
  9. Toothpaste: Roll or Squeeze?
  10. Sunflower or Rose?
  11. Bed pillows: One or a Pile?
  12. What’s worse: Laundry or Dishes?
  13. Cups in the cupboard: Right Side Up or Upside Down?
  14. Fold Immediately or Leave in Basket?
  15. Sandalwood Scent or Vanilla Scent?
  16. Shower pressure: Gentle Spray or Full Blast?
  17. Cactus or Succulent?
  18. Junk drawer: Dividers or One Big Pile?
  19. Hammock or Lawn Chair?
  20. Rain or Snow?
  21. Doorbell rings: Answer It or Peek First?
  22. Receive: Email or Letter?
  23. House temperature: Cool or Toasty?
  24. Bubble Bath or Mud Bath?
  25. Dog or Cat?
  26. What's worse: Unwanted Advice or Unwanted Favors?
  27. Rock Garden or Flower Garden?
  28. Socks First or Pants First?
  29. Blinds or Curtain?
  30. Potted Plants or Wildflowers?
  31. Bedtime: Door Open or Door Closed?
  32. Bath or Shower?
  33. Vacuuming: Straight Lines or Wherever Looks Dirty?
  34. Toilet paper: Over or Under?
  35. On the couch: Sit Upright or Lay Down?
  36. Fairy Lights or Neon Lights?
  37. Handwritten Notes or Voice Recordings?
  38. Groceries: One Heavy Trip or Several Light Trips?
  39. Sunrise or Sunset?
  40. Soap: Bar or Pump?
  41. When sleeping: Fan or No Fan?
  42. Drying dishes: Towel or Air Dry?
  43. Toilet Paper or Bidet?
  44. Left or Right?
  45. TV or Silence?
  46. Blue or Red?
  47. When napping: Couch or Under the Covers?
  48. Jump Up or Get Down?

Funny this or that questions

  1. Pigeon Chess Tournament or Squirrel Checkers Game?
  2. Shower Curtain Cape or Bath Mat Vest?
  3. Cheeseburger Hat or Hot Dog Shoes?
  4. Synchronized Swimming on Land or Soccer in the Swimming Pool?
  5. What's worse: Stuck Zipper or Inside-Out Umbrella?
  6. Moustache on a Cat or Sunglasses on a Dog?
  7. Blindfolded Cake Baking or Blindfolded Salad Making?
  8. Marshmallow Fight or Meatball Fight?
  9. What's worse: Lipstick on Teeth or Spinach in Teeth?
  10. Toga Party or Ugly Sweater Party?
  11. Belly Flop or Cannonball?
  12. Traffic Cone Hat or Pool Noodle Belt?
  13. Underwater Basket Weaving or Skydiving Knitting?
  14. Slippery Banana Peel Ballet or Roller Skate Tango?
  15. What's worse: Wet Socks or Crumbs in Bed?
  16. Square-Dancing Flamingos or Breakdancing Octopuses?
  17. Pillow Fortress or Blanket Maze?
  18. Bubble-Wrap Popping Contest or Yodeling Contest?
  19. What's worse: Sticky Door Handle or Damp Handshake?
  20. Time Traveling Picnic or Space Travel BBQ?
  21. Butter Massage or Tomato Soup Bath?
  22. Ketchup Popsicle or Mustard Milkshake?
  23. Werewolf or Were-Chicken?
  24. Marshmallow Boxing or Jelly Wrestling?
  25. Banana Telephone or Waffle Keyboard?
  26. Juggling or Unicycling?
  27. Llama Parade or Penguin Party?
  28. Yawn or Hiccup?
  29. What's worse: Squeaky Shoe or Wobbly Table?
  30. Toothpaste Cake or Mouthwash Pie?
  31. Meet Aliens or Develop Robots?
  32. What's worse: Shampoo in Eyes or Hair in Mouth?
  33. Zombies or Vampires?
  34. Bathrobe Fashion Show or Pajama Red Carpet?
  35. Whoopee Cushion Sofa or Squeaky Toy Mattress?
  36. Invisible Cats or Rainbow-Colored Glowing Dogs?
  37. Spaghetti Tree or Meatball Bush?
  38. What's worse: Stubborn Shopping Cart or Tangled Dog Leash?
  39. Time Travel Twice or Teleport Infinite Times?
  40. Fly Swatter Fencing or Dustpan Curling?
  41. Skiing on Water or Skiing on a Sand Dune?
  42. What's worse: Surprise Hiccup or Surprise Voice Crack?
  43. Popcorn Rain or Candy Hail?
  44. Yodeling or Beatboxing?
  45. Dinosaur Suit Yoga or Clown Shoe Bowling?
  46. Selfie With a Ghost or Photo Bombing Bigfoot?
  47. Pickle-Flavored Ice Cream or Bacon-Scented Candles?
  48. What's worse: Disappearing Sneeze or Endless Eye Twitch?
  49. Lava Lamp or Disco Ball?
  50. Snowball Fight or Water Balloon Fight?
  51. Rubber Ducks or Rubber Chickens?
  52. What's worse: Splattering Yogurt Lid or Exploding Juice Box?
  53. Alphabet Soup Spelling Bee or Tic-Tac-Toe with Croutons?
  54. Werewolves or Mummies?
  55. Spaghetti Wig or Broccoli Toupee?
  56. Cowabunga or Yabba Dabba Doo?

This or that food questions

  1. Iced Coffee or Hot Coffee?
  2. Brownies: Edge Piece or Middle Piece?
  3. Coffee or Tea?
  4. Coke or Pepsi?
  5. Pizza: Fold It or Keep It Flat?
  6. Sweet or Savory?
  7. Garden Salad or Caesar Salad?
  8. Fries: Dip or Drizzle?
  9. Pineapples or Coconuts?
  10. Hot Chocolate or Iced Tea?
  11. Peanut butter: Smooth or Chunky?
  12. Vegan Diet or Carnivorous Diet?
  13. Broccoli or Cauliflower?
  14. Cereal: Milk First or Cereal First?
  15. Soup or Sandwich?
  16. Homemade Cookies or Store-Bought Cookies?
  17. Cake or Pie?
  18. Bagels: Toasted or Untoasted?
  19. Dark Chocolate or White Chocolate?
  20. Hot Dog or Corn Dog?
  21. Orange juice: Pulp or No Pulp?
  22. Spaghetti or Lasagna?
  23. Hamburger or Taco?
  24. Mashed potatoes: Smooth or Lumpy?
  25. Fruit Salad or Vegetable Stir-Fry?
  26. Rainbow Sprinkles or Chocolate Chips?
  27. Pizza leftovers: Cold or Microwaved?
  28. Ketchup or Mayo?
  29. Toast or Eggs?
  30. Pickles: On the Burger or On the Side?
  31. Farmer's Market or Supermarket?
  32. Smoothie or Milkshake?
  33. Cookies: Dunk or Eat Dry?
  34. Steak or Sushi?
  35. Hard Shell Taco or Soft-Shell Taco?
  36. Salad dressing: Tossed In or On the Side?
  37. Dine In or Delivery?
  38. Meat or Vegetables?
  39. Share Plates or Order Your Own?
  40. Bakery or Butcher?
  41. Pancakes or Waffles?
  42. Mac and cheese: Fork or Spoon?
  43. Homemade Bread or Bakery Bread?
  44. Ice Cream Cone or Snow Cone?
  45. Water: Ice or No Ice?
  46. At a movie: Candy or Popcorn?
  47. Microwave or Oven?
  48. Fine Dining or Fast Food?
  49. Doughnuts: Filled or With a Hole?
  50. Picnic in the Park or Rooftop Dinner?
  51. High Tea or Casual Brunch?
  52. Baked potato: Eat the Skin or Leave It?
  53. International Cuisine or National Cuisine?
  54. Moon Pies or Zebra Cakes?
  55. Corn on the cob: Rows or Around?
  56. Fancy Restaurant, Mediocre Food or Delicious Food, Rough Restaurant?
  57. Crunchy or Chewy?
  58. Biscuit or English Muffin?
  59. Sweet BBQ or Savory BBQ?
  60. Thai or Italian?
  61. Cake frosting: A Little or A Lot?
  62. Small Menu or Big Menu?

Personality this or that questions

Quick ones about how someone does things, like reading the instructions or just figuring it out.

  1. Astronomy or Astrology?
  2. Read the Instructions or Figure It Out?
  3. Early Arrival or Ten Minutes Late?
  4. Clear the Notifications or Let Them Pile Up?
  5. Leader or Follower?
  6. Friendly Debate or Quick Agreement?
  7. Pack Light or Pack Extras?
  8. Big Party or Small Gathering?
  9. Try the New Place or Order the Usual?
  10. Social Butterfly or Lone Wolf?
  11. Shoes: Keep the Box or Toss the Box?
  12. Think Out Loud or Think It Through?
  13. Form or Function?
  14. Detailed List or Mental Note?
  15. Fix It Immediately or Sleep on It?
  16. Optimist or Pessimist?
  17. Ask for Directions or Check the Map?
  18. Full Weekend or Open Weekend?
  19. Loud Laughter or Quiet Smile?
  20. Laugh at Yourself or Keep a Straight Face?
  21. Room for Guests or Room for Hobbies?
  22. Camping or Binge-Watching Shows at Home?
  23. Check the Receipt or Trust the Total?
  24. Work Hard or Play Hard?
  25. Give a Pep Talk or Make a Plan?
  26. Keep a Secret Easily or Burst to Tell?
  27. Trusting or Skeptical?
  28. Celebrate Every Milestone or Wait for the Finish?
  29. Leave the Party Early or Help Stack Chairs?
  30. Build or Destroy?
  31. Explain with Words or Draw a Diagram?

Entertainment this or that questions

Movies, TV, music, books, games and art. Good for finding out what someone does on a night off.

  1. Live Theater or Movie?
  2. Sculpture Garden or Mural Wall?
  3. Weekly Episodes or Whole Season at Once?
  4. Streaming or YouTube?
  5. Fiction or Nonfiction?
  6. Detective Novel or Fantasy Novel?
  7. Subtitles or Dubbing?
  8. Flamenco or Tango?
  9. TV Shows or Movies?
  10. Film Photography or Digital Photography?
  11. Comfort Rewatch or New Release?
  12. Ice Sculpture or Sand Sculpture?
  13. Acoustic Guitar or Electric Guitar?
  14. Sing or Dance?
  15. Folk Tales or Science Fiction?
  16. Skip the Intro or Sing Along?
  17. Sketching or Painting?
  18. Acoustic Music or Electronic Music?
  19. Vinyl Records or Streaming Music?
  20. Full Album or Shuffled Playlist?
  21. Drawing or Sculpting?
  22. Art Museum or Natural History Museum?
  23. Wizards and Witches or Superheroes?
  24. Online Gaming or Traditional Board Games?
  25. Front Row or Room to Dance?
  26. Mystery Novel or Sci-Fi Novel?
  27. Waltz or Salsa?
  28. Folk or Hip Hop?
  29. Front-Row Tickets or Backstage Passes?
  30. Card Game or Board Game?
  31. Hardcover or Paperback?
  32. Console Gaming or PC Gaming?
  33. What's worse: Missing the Beginning or Missing the Ending?
  34. Traditional Art or Digital Art?
  35. While walking: Music or Podcasts?
  36. Movie at Home or Movie at the Theater?
  37. Second-Hand Book or New Book?
  38. Game night: Co-op or Head-to-Head?
  39. Pop or Indie?
  40. TV or Book?
  41. Audiobook or Podcast?
  42. Main Quest or Side Quests?
  43. Drum Circle or Choir?
  44. Piano or Guitar?
  45. Comic Book or Comic Strips?
  46. Graffiti Art or Gallery Art?
  47. Book First or Adaptation First?
  48. Classical Art or Modern Art?
  49. Black And White Photography or Color Photography?
  50. Mobile Games or Console Games?
  51. One Book at a Time or Several Books at Once?
  52. Public Library or Personal Book Collection?
  53. Documentary or Action Film?
  54. Rock or Pop?
  55. Perfect Ending or Another Season?
  56. Heavy Metal or Classical Music?
  57. Horror Movie or Comedy Movie?

Travel this or that questions

Trips, getting there and the great outdoors. Handy on a long drive.

  1. Birdsong or Ocean Waves?
  2. Backpack or Rolling Suitcase?
  3. Postcard or Souvenir?
  4. Roll Clothes or Fold Clothes?
  5. Meadow or Forest?
  6. First-Class Flight or Five-Star Hotel?
  7. Train Ride or Bike Ride?
  8. Highway or Rural Road?
  9. Arrive Early or Cut It Close?
  10. Road Trip or Plane Trip?
  11. Ground Floor or Top Floor?
  12. Amusement Park or Day at the Beach?
  13. Sightseeing: Guided Group or Wander Alone?
  14. Roller Coaster or Ferris Wheel?
  15. Historical Tour or Nature Hike?
  16. Vacation photos: People or Scenery?
  17. Swimming or Sunbathing?
  18. Scenic Overlook or Giant Roadside Statue?
  19. Aquarium or Aviary?
  20. Train or Plane?
  21. Direct Flight or Extra Legroom?
  22. City Skyline or Mountain Range?
  23. Buffet or Room Service?
  24. Natural Pool or Man-Made Pool?
  25. Ferry or Cable Car?
  26. E-Bike or Traditional Bicycle?
  27. Bonsai Tree or Oak Tree?
  28. At the campsite: Near Bathrooms or Far from Everyone?
  29. Jungle or Desert?
  30. Collect Shells or Skip Stones?
  31. Motorcycle or Bicycle?
  32. Hotel room: Beautiful View or Perfect Mattress?
  33. Passenger or Driver?
  34. Botanical Garden or Zoo?
  35. On a long drive: Conversation or Music?
  36. Aquarium Visit or Museum Tour?
  37. Unpacking: Right Away or Days Later?
  38. Rushing Waterfall or Quiet Pond?
  39. Hot Tub or Pool?
  40. Vacation spot: Familiar Favorite or Somewhere New?
  41. Cabin in the Woods or Beach House?
  42. On a hike: Loop or Out and Back?
  43. Palm Trees or Pine Trees?
  44. Hotel housekeeping: Every Day or Just at Checkout?
  45. Mountains or Beaches?
  46. Car or Truck?
  47. Empty Beach or Lively Boardwalk?
  48. Public Transportation or Car?
  49. Read the Plaque or Take the Photo?
  50. Local Tourism or International Travel?
  51. Vacation lodging: Downtown or Off the Beaten Path?
  52. Adventure or Relaxation?

Sports this or that questions

For people who play, and for people who would rather watch.

  1. Skydiving or SCUBA Diving?
  2. Tennis: Singles or Doubles?
  3. Sunrise Yoga or Sunset Meditation?
  4. Horseback Riding or Cycling?
  5. Behind Home Plate or Outfield Bleachers?
  6. Football or Basketball?
  7. Bowling: Straight Shot or Curve?
  8. Skydiving or Paragliding?
  9. Bicycle or Skateboard?
  10. Pool or Darts?
  11. Individual Sports or Team Sports?
  12. Roller Derby or Figure Skating?
  13. Workout: Class or On Your Own?
  14. Marathon or Triathlon?
  15. Water Rafting or Kayaking?
  16. Goalkeeper or Forward?
  17. Roller Skates or Ice Skates?
  18. Pickleball or Badminton?
  19. City Marathon or Trail Run?
  20. Fishing or Hunting?
  21. Batting Cages or Driving Range?
  22. Yoga or Weightlifting?
  23. Football or Soccer?
  24. Volleyball: Sand or Indoor Court?
  25. Marathon or Sprint?
  26. Kite Flying or Frisbee Throwing?
  27. Workout music: Fast Beats or Heavy Guitars?
  28. Mountain Climbing or Cave Diving?
  29. In a close game: Defense or Offense?
  30. Surfing or Snowboarding?
  31. Jogging or Hiking?
  32. At a race: Compete or Cheer?
  33. Paintball or Lasertag?

Style and shopping this or that questions

Clothes, looks, shopping and what people do with their money.

  1. New Clothes or New Phone?
  2. Jeans: Loose or Fitted?
  3. Sweater or Hoodie?
  4. Tucked In or Untucked?
  5. Save or Spend?
  6. Stilettos or Ballet Flats?
  7. Silver or Gold?
  8. Thrift Store or Retail Store?
  9. Formal or Casual?
  10. Sneakers: Spotless or Scuffed?
  11. Polka Dots or Stripes?
  12. Shopping: Browse or Get In and Out?
  13. Glasses or Contacts?
  14. Vertical Stripes or Horizontal Stripes?
  15. Pockets: Full or Empty?
  16. Online Shopping or Shopping in a Store?
  17. Nice Car or Nice Home Interior?
  18. Coat: Waist Length or Knee Length?
  19. Blue Jeans or Khakis?
  20. At a sale: Stock Up or Buy One?
  21. Sneakers or Sandals?
  22. International Vacation or New Top of the Line TV?
  23. Outfit colors: Bright or Neutral?
  24. Debit or Credit?
  25. Handmade or Factory-Made?
  26. New clothes: Wash First or Wear Immediately?
  27. Antique Shopping or Online Shopping?
  28. Wallet: Big or Barely There?
  29. Buy or Rent/Lease?

Tech this or that questions

Phones, apps and gadgets. Everyone has an opinion on dark mode.

  1. Headphones or Speakers?
  2. Dark Mode or Light Mode?
  3. Phone case: Clear or Colorful?
  4. Fingerprint or Face Scan?
  5. Sound or Vibration?
  6. Browser tabs: Close Them or Keep Them Open?
  7. iOS or Android?
  8. Charging: Overnight or Throughout the Day?
  9. Phone wallpaper: Personal Photo or Simple Pattern?
  10. App layout: Folders or Separate Icons?
  11. Keyboard: Clicky or Quiet?
  12. Mac or PC?
  13. Touchscreen or Physical Buttons?
  14. Phone videos: Vertical or Horizontal?
  15. Screenshots: Delete Later or Keep Forever?
  16. Gas Car or Electric Car?
  17. Password Manager or Memorized Passwords?
  18. Maps: Voice Directions or Silent Route?
  19. Touchpad or Mouse?
  20. New phone: Bigger Screen or Smaller Size?
  21. High-tech or Low-tech?
  22. Email inbox: Sorted Folders or Search Everything?
  23. Charging cable: Extra Long or Short and Tidy?
  24. Cloud Storage or External Drive?
  25. One Alarm or Several Alarms?
  26. Tablet or Computer?
  27. Autocorrect: On or Off?
  28. One Wide Monitor or Two Monitors?
  29. Phone grip: Ring or Strap?
  30. Analogue Watch or Smart Watch?
  31. Wi-Fi name: Funny or Practical?
  32. Smart speaker: Kitchen or Bedroom?

Holiday this or that questions

Christmas, Halloween, birthdays and the seasons in between. Real tree or fake tree starts arguments in some houses.

  1. Winter Solstice or Summer Solstice?
  2. Christmas tree: Real or Artificial?
  3. Holiday lights: White or Multicolored?
  4. Gift Bags or Wrapping Paper?
  5. Opening gifts: One at a Time or All at Once?
  6. Christmas presents: Christmas Eve or Christmas Morning?
  7. Halloween costume: Scary or Funny?
  8. Pumpkins: Carve or Paint?
  9. Hand Out Candy or Trick-or-Treat?
  10. Candy corn: Eat It or Give It Away?
  11. Cranberry sauce: Whole Berries or Canned Jelly?
  12. Holiday meal: Lunch or Dinner?
  13. New Year's Eve: Stay Up or Turn In?
  14. Birthday candles: One Candle or Your Actual Age?
  15. Birthday song: Join In or Mouth the Words?
  16. Birthday gifts: Wish List or Dealer's Choice?
  17. Party cleanup: That Night or Next Morning?
  18. Winter or Summer?
  19. Easter eggs: Dye Them or Fill Them?
  20. Apple Picking or Pumpkin Patch?
  21. Parade or Fireworks?
  22. Thanksgiving: Turkey or Side Dishes?
  23. Holiday leftovers: Reheat a Plate or Make a Sandwich?
  24. Secret Santa or White Elephant?
  25. One Big Cake or Individual Cupcakes?
  26. Birthday gifts: Open at the Party or Open Later?
  27. First snow: Go Outside or Watch from Inside?
  28. Holiday gathering: Dress Up or Wear Stretchy Pants?
  29. Summer Vacation or Winter Holiday?
  30. Easter eggs: Chocolate or Jelly Beans?
  31. Holiday music: Start in November or Wait Until December?
  32. Office party: Bring a Dish or Catered Meal?
  33. Chocolates or Flowers?
  34. Summer break: Pool Pass or Season Tickets?

This or that questions for younger kids

A short, easy set for younger kids. There are plenty more on our this or that questions for kids page.

  1. Puppet Show or Magic Show?
  2. Pancake Bed or Cupcake Chair?
  3. Turtle Bus or Snail Train?
  4. Ice Cream Mountain or Chocolate River?
  5. Ninjas or Pirates?
  6. Sticker Book or Stamp Set?
  7. Hopscotch or Four Square?
  8. Trampoline or Bouncy Castle?
  9. Paper Airplanes or Paper Boats?
  10. Costume box: Animal Ears or Giant Glasses?
  11. Sidewalk drawing: Giant Rainbow or Funny Face?
  12. Snowball Fight or Sandcastle Building?
  13. Treasure hunt: Picture Clues or Riddles?
  14. Monkey Bars or Spinning Wheel?
  15. Giraffe or Penguin?
  16. Brush a Pony or Feed a Goat?
  17. Bubble Beard or Shampoo Mohawk?
  18. Hula Hoops or Jump Ropes?
  19. Dive for Rings or Float on a Raft?

This or that questions for teens

School, first jobs, driving and weekends. Easy ones for teens to ask each other.

  1. Public School or Home School?
  2. School bus: Front Seat or Back Seat?
  3. Cafeteria Lunch or Packed Lunch?
  4. Finish Early or Use Every Minute?
  5. Spirit Week: Pajama Day or Jersey Day?
  6. First job: Movie Theater or Ice Cream Shop?
  7. Driving practice: Parking or Changing Lanes?
  8. School dance: Request Songs or Dance to Anything?
  9. Yearbook: Funny Message or Heartfelt Message?
  10. Multiple Choice or Short Answer?
  11. Snack First or Nap First?
  12. School Play or Talent Show?
  13. Bus ride: Sleep or Talk?
  14. Learning to drive: Parent or Instructor?
  15. Opening Shift or Closing Shift?
  16. Study break: Stretch or Get a Snack?
  17. School pictures: Big Smile or Straight Face?
  18. Lunch table: Same Seat or Switch Seats?
  19. Backpack: One Strap or Two Straps?
  20. Pep rally: Bleachers or Gym Floor?
  21. Homework: Hardest First or Easiest First?
  22. Car Wash or Bake Sale?
  23. Free period: Library or Courtyard?
  24. Food Court or Clothing Stores?
  25. New class: Familiar Faces or Fresh Start?
  26. School break: Extra Shifts or Extra Sleep?
  27. Practice Tests or Flashcards?
  28. Out with parents: Walk Together or Walk Ahead?
  29. Yearbook Photos or Photo Booth Strips?
  30. Parking Lot Pickup or Walk Home?
  31. Team Tryouts or Play Auditions?
  32. Group project: Choose Partners or Assigned Partners?
  33. School night: Strict Bedtime or Set Your Own?
  34. Allowance: Weekly or Monthly?
  35. First paycheck: Sneakers or Concert Tickets?
  36. Science or the Arts?
  37. School game: Face Paint or Team Shirt?
  38. Sleepover: Air Mattress or Couch Cushions?
  39. Class schedule: Back to Back or Breaks Between?
  40. Family group chat: Reply or React?
  41. Racing Games or Claw Machines?
  42. School uniform: Easier Mornings or Lost Freedom?
  43. Babysitting or Mowing Lawns?
  44. Family outing: Bring a Friend or Bring Headphones?
  45. Finishing early: Review Your Work or Start Something New?
  46. School supplies: Matching Set or Random Mix?
  47. Graduation cap: Decorated or Plain?

This or that questions for friends

For friend groups and best friends. A few of these might settle an old argument.

  1. Rich Friend or Loyal Friend?
  2. Group plans: Set a Time or Start a Poll?
  3. Hangout spot: Your Place or Their Place?
  4. Karaoke: Duet or Group Song?
  5. Silly Faces or Cool Poses?
  6. Advice Friend or Distraction Friend?
  7. Borrowed hoodie: Wash First or Return As Is?
  8. Group chat: Memes or Life Updates?
  9. Old photos: Recreate Them or Keep Them Hidden?
  10. Escape room: Read Clues or Search Drawers?
  11. Canceled plans: Secret Relief or Real Disappointment?
  12. Snack run: Take Requests or Surprise Everyone?
  13. Road trip duty: Navigation or Snacks?
  14. Read the Rules or Learn While Playing?
  15. Make Reservations or Wait for Tables?
  16. A friend's story: Add Details or Let Them Finish?
  17. Pack Boxes or Carry Furniture?
  18. Game night: Fixed Teams or Switch Partners?
  19. Hype Friend or Calm Friend?
  20. At a concert: Stick Together or Meet After?
  21. Sharing photos: Send Everything or Pick the Best?
  22. Friend's fridge: Help Yourself or Ask First?
  23. Long Walk or Long Lunch?
  24. Group costumes: Same Character or Same Theme?
  25. Party cleanup: Stay and Help or Host Next Time?
  26. At trivia: Trust Your Answer or Trust Your Friend?
  27. Friendship tradition: Annual Trip or Weekly Meal?
  28. A friend's bad haircut: Mention It or Stay Quiet?
  29. Group outing: Invite New People or Keep the Usuals?
  30. Shared hobby: Teach Each Other or Take a Class?
  31. Lending a book: Set a Deadline or Forget It?
  32. At a friend's party: Arrive First or Leave Last?
  33. Bad day: Bring Food or Bring Jokes?
  34. Group chat name: Inside Reference or Everyone's Names?
  35. Taking group photos: Set a Timer or Ask Someone?
  36. Friend's new hobby: Join In or Cheer Them On?
  37. Splitting snacks: Equal Shares or First Come?
  38. Long goodbye: Doorway or Driveway?
  39. Group playlist: Everyone Adds or One DJ?

This or that questions for work

Light icebreakers for meetings and new teams. Nothing that will get anyone in trouble with HR.

  1. Freelancer or Employee?
  2. Presentation: Go First or Go Last?
  3. Desk: Window View or Quiet Corner?
  4. Meetings: Early Morning or Late Afternoon?
  5. Feedback: Written Comments or Quick Conversation?
  6. Lunch break: Eat Outside or Stay Inside?
  7. Shorter Workdays or Three-Day Weekends?
  8. Working Alone or Working in a Team?
  9. Whiteboard or Sticky Notes?
  10. Introductions: Name Tags or Go Around the Room?
  11. Bullet Points or Full Sentences?
  12. Pen or Pencil?
  13. Project role: Research or Present?
  14. One Big Project or Several Small Tasks?
  15. What's worse: Rushed Deadline or Constant Interruptions?
  16. Break room: Coffee Maker or Snack Shelf?
  17. Lined Paper or Blank Paper?
  18. Workday soundtrack: Quiet Music or Complete Silence?
  19. Office thermostat: Cooler or Warmer?
  20. Commute: Fewer Miles or Fewer Stoplights?
  21. Working From Home or Commuting to Work?
  22. Great Mentor or Great Assistant?
  23. Work questions: Ask Immediately or Collect a List?
  24. To-do list: Cross Out or Check Off?
  25. New assignment: See an Example or Ask Questions?
  26. In-Person Meeting or Video Conference?
  27. Presentation slides: Photos or Charts?
  28. Work bag: Pack at Night or Pack Before Leaving?

This or that questions for couples

  1. Open Communication or Keeping Some Secrets?
  2. DIY Home Projects or Hiring Professionals?
  3. Grocery Shopping or Meal Planning?
  4. Splitting the Bill or Taking Turns to Pay?
  5. Attend a Sports Event or Watch a Game at a Sports Bar?
  6. Adopting a Pet or Having a Child?
  7. Taking Turns Picking Movies or Watch Own Shows Separately?
  8. Healthy Competition or Mutual Support?
  9. Shared Calendar or Spontaneous Plans?
  10. Home Repair or Home Decoration?
  11. Fitness Partners or Foodie Partners?
  12. Frequent Small Arguments or Rare Big Disagreements?
  13. His And Hers Items or Shared Items?
  14. Trapeze Class or Rock Climbing?
  15. Couple's Tattoos or Individual Tattoos?
  16. Public Displays of Affection or Private Intimacy?
  17. Social Media or Keeping Relationship Private?
  18. Budgeting Together or Individual Finances?
  19. Attend a Book Reading or Poetry Slam?
  20. Breakfast in Bed or Dinner at the Table?
  21. Joint Hobbies or Individual Hobbies?
  22. Street Performance or theater Play?
  23. Splitting the Chores or Hiring a Housekeeper?
  24. Stone Cottage or Glass Skyscraper?
  25. Cooking Together or Cooking For Each Other?
  26. Ghost Tour or Historical Walking Tour?
  27. Couples Yoga or Dance Fitness Class?
  28. Scavenger Hunt or Escape Room?
  29. Gardening or Mowing the Lawn?
  30. Pet Names or Using Real Names?
  31. Double Dates or Hanging Out with Friends Separately?
  32. Handwritten Love Letters or Sweet Texts?
  33. Tandem Bike Ride or Gym Sessions Together?
  34. Setting Relationship Goals or Going with the Flow?
  35. Themed Costume Party or Masquerade Ball?
  36. Date Nights or Staying in?
  37. Big Wedding or Eloping?
  38. Heirloom Ring or Custom-Made Ring?
  39. Weekend Getaways or Day Trips?
  40. Snorkeling or Snowboarding?
  41. Vacuuming or Cooking?
  42. Romantic Restaurant or Hole in the Wall Restaurant?
  43. Kayaking or Paddleboarding?
  44. Watching TV Together or Reading Together?
  45. Drive-In Movie or Outdoor Concert?
  46. Visit An Aquarium or Planetarium?
  47. Romantic Comedy or Action Thriller?
  48. Shared Netflix Account or Separate Profiles?
  49. Frequent Short Vacations or Occasional Long Vacations?
  50. Same Side of the Booth or Across the Table?
  51. Sleeping in or Early Riser?
  52. Flamenco or Breakdancing?
  53. Surprise Parties or Planned Celebrations?
  54. Comedy Club or Poetry Slam?
  55. Hiking or Camping?
  56. Salsa Dancing or Ballroom Dancing?
  57. Home-Cooked Dinner or Take-Out?
  58. Slow Dancing or Fast Dancing?
  59. Movie Night or Game Night?
  60. Stargazing or Watch the Sunrise?
  61. Frequent Small Surprises or Occasional Grand Gestures?
  62. Spaghetti Western or Kung-Fu Comedy?
  63. Mini-Golf or Bowling?
  64. Maintaining Friendships or Couple-Only Activities?
  65. Making the Bed or Folding Clothes?
  66. Sidewalk Cafe or Rooftop Bar?
  67. Frequent Texting or Infrequent Texting?
  68. Keeping Score or Not Keeping Track?
  69. Horseback Riding or Bike Ride?
  70. Lavish Gifts or Heartfelt Homemade Gifts?
  71. Cooking Class or Wine Tasting?
  72. Matching Style or Individual Styles?
  73. Couple's Therapy or Self-Help Books?
  74. Spending Time with Family or Spending Time with Friends?
  75. Carnival or Opera?

Flirty this or that questions

Light and playful, for dates and crushes. Nothing too spicy.

  1. Most important in a partner: Intelligent or Funny?
  2. First move: Make It or Wait for It?
  3. First date: Coffee or Ice Cream?
  4. Flirting: Eye Contact or Playful Teasing?
  5. After a date: Text That Night or Text Next Morning?
  6. Your crush: Easy to Read or Hard to Read?
  7. First hello: Wave or Hug?
  8. Date invitation: Pick a Place or Offer Two Choices?
  9. Compliments: Your Smile or Your Style?
  10. Funny Bio or Thoughtful Bio?
  11. Crush advice: Ask a Friend or Trust Yourself?
  12. First date nerves: Talk More or Listen More?
  13. Meeting a date's friends: One at a Time or Whole Group?
  14. Date outfit: Tried and True or Something New?
  15. Quick Peck or Lingering Kiss?
  16. Flirty message: Bold Compliment or Running Joke?
  17. First date: Short and Sweet or Keep It Going?
  18. Your crush remembers: Coffee Order or Favorite Song?
  19. Dating app opener: Ask a Question or Make a Joke?
  20. New crush: Tell Your Friends or Keep It Quiet?
  21. Date going well: Order Dessert or Take a Walk?
  22. Mischievous Grin or Bashful Smile?
  23. Quiet Confidence or Obvious Enthusiasm?
  24. Mystery or Open Book?
  25. Give Your Number or Ask for Theirs?
  26. Obvious Wink or Lingering Eye Contact?
  27. Smooth Introduction or Charming Stumble?
  28. Better match for you: Good Cook or Guitar Player?
  29. Share a Dessert or Steal a Bite?
  30. Hand on Your Back or Fingers Brushing Yours?
  31. First kiss: Hello or Goodbye?
  32. Planned Date or Spontaneous Coffee?
  33. Dance Floor or Quiet Walk Outside?

This or that questions for adults

Nothing too objectionable, just questions that are aimed at adults in general.

  1. Beer or Wine?
  2. Realistic Art or Surrealist Art?
  3. Antique Furniture or Modern Furniture?
  4. Oven or Grill?
  5. Wine or Whiskey?
  6. Camping or Glamping?
  7. Hot Springs or Cold Plunge Pool?
  8. Penthouse or Countryside Villa?
  9. Formal Dinner or Casual Picnic?
  10. Stone Pathway or Wooden Pathway?
  11. Paperback or E-Reader?
  12. Big Windows or Thick Walls?
  13. Classical Ballet or Contemporary Dance?
  14. Hard Cheese or Soft Cheese?
  15. Wine And Cheese or Beer and Pretzels?
  16. Tea Ceremony or Wine Tasting?
  17. Art Deco or Minimalism?
  18. Fresh Flowers or Silk Flowers?
  19. Farmers Market or Flea Market?
  20. Tap Dance or Ballet?
  21. Charcoal Grilling or Gas Grilling?
  22. Backyard BBQ Area or Gourmet Kitchen?
  23. Ceiling Fan or Tabletop / Floor Fan?
  24. White Glove Service or Self-Service?
  25. Fishing Boat or Luxury Yacht?
  26. Crossword Puzzle or Sudoku?
  27. Classical Music or Blues?
  28. Cross-Country Skiing or Downhill Skiing?
  29. Jazz Club or Piano Bar?
  30. Art Auction or Garage Sale?
  31. Bed And Breakfast or Luxury Hotel?
  32. Couch Potato or Gym Rat?
  33. Rare Book Collection or Wine Collection?
  34. Real Estate or Stocks?
  35. Opera or Jazz Club?
  36. Bigger Yard or Bigger Kitchen?
  37. Hot Air Balloon Ride or Helicopter Tour?
  38. Caviar or Truffles?
  39. Rural Living or Urban Living?
  40. Spa Retreat or Adventure Travel?
  41. Wine Tasting or Brewery Tour?
  42. Vintage Car or Electric Car?
  43. Bouncing Castle for Adults or Treehouse for Adults?
  44. Square Dance or River Dance?
  45. Art Gallery or History Museum Visit?
  46. Symphony or Rock Concert?
  47. Skyscraper Apartment or Bungalow?
  48. Morning Jog or Evening Walk?
  49. Snorkeling or SCUBA Diving?
  50. Aerobics or Yoga?
  51. Online Newspaper or Print Newspaper?
  52. Full Moon Beach Party or New Moon Rooftop Party?
  53. Indoor Plants or Outdoor Garden?
  54. Tent Camping or RV Camping?
  55. Off the Rack Clothes or Designer Brands?
  56. Instant Coffee or French Press?
  57. Yacht or Private Jet?
  58. Birdwatching or Stargazing?
  59. Oil Painting or Sculpture?
  60. Personal Chef or Housekeeper?
  61. Golf or NASCAR?
  62. Jazz Band or Symphony Orchestra?
  63. Weekend Getaway or Staycation?
  64. Gourmet Dining or Street Food?
  65. Black-Tie Gala or Cocktail Party?
  66. Pottery Class or Glassblowing Class?
  67. Manual or Automatic?
  68. Crystal Chandelier or Minimalist Light?
  69. Cooking Class or Painting Class?
  70. Live theater or Comedy Show?
  71. Electric or Gas Stovetop?

Hard this or that questions

Both answers are good (or both are bad), so whichever you pick costs you something.

  1. Money or Free Time?
  2. Dream Job or Dream Hometown?
  3. Job Security or Creative Control?
  4. What's worse: Lost Wallet or Lost Phone?
  5. What's worse: Pay Cut or Demotion?
  6. Great Boss or Great Coworkers?
  7. Living Near Parents or Living Near Children?
  8. What's worse: Bad News or No News?
  9. Higher Pay or Shorter Commute?
  10. Sabbatical Now or Early Retirement?
  11. What's worse: Endless Waiting or Constant Rushing?
  12. What's worse: Broken Promise or Forgotten Birthday?
  13. Paid-Off Home or Thriving Business?
  14. Time for Friends or Time for Yourself?
  15. What's worse: Awkward Apology or Unresolved Argument?
  16. Extra Bedroom or Walkable Neighborhood?
  17. Reliable Partner or Affectionate Partner?
  18. What's worse: Jealous Partner or Distant Partner?
  19. Small Loyal Audience or Huge Casual Audience?
  20. What's worse: Being Underestimated or Being Overestimated?
  21. In a relationship: Shared Interests or Shared Ambitions?
  22. Sharp Memory or Quick Wit?
  23. What's worse: Boring Job or Unpredictable Schedule?
  24. What's worse: Lost Taste or Lost Smell?
  25. Nearby Friends or Lifelong Friends?
  26. Beautiful Singing Voice or Gift for Storytelling?
  27. What's worse: Tough Goodbye or Slow Drift Apart?
  28. Natural Confidence or Natural Charm?
  29. Fast Learning or Lasting Motivation?
  30. What's worse: Short Temper or Thin Skin?
  31. What's worse: Noisy Neighbor or Unreliable Landlord?
  32. Musical Talent or Athletic Talent?
  33. Steady Progress or Big Break?

Deep this or that questions

  1. Honesty or Other’s Feelings?
  2. Equal Shares or Shares Based on Need?
  3. Earned Trust or Trust from the Start?
  4. Free Will or Destiny?
  5. Forgiveness or Accountability?
  6. Humanity: Inherently Good or Inherently Evil?
  7. Good Intentions or Good Results?
  8. Nature or Nurture?
  9. Private Generosity or Public Example?
  10. Plan Ahead or Live in the Moment?
  11. Meaningful Life or Happy Life?
  12. Being Needed or Being Understood?
  13. Ask for Permission or Ask for Forgiveness?
  14. Roots or Reinvention?
  15. God or No God?
  16. Keep Your Word or Change Your Mind?
  17. Individual Happiness or Betterment of Society?
  18. Second Chances or Firm Boundaries?
  19. Heart or Mind?
  20. Protect Traditions or Challenge Traditions?
  21. Physical Health or Mental Health?
  22. Right to Privacy or Right to Know?
  23. Work or Family?
  24. Childhood Photo or Grandparent's Voice Recording?
  25. Loyalty to People or Loyalty to Principles?
  26. Freedom or Safety?
  27. Accept an Ending or Seek an Explanation?
  28. Comfort or Effort?
  29. Reward Effort or Reward Achievement?
  30. Settle or Search?
  31. Hold Your Ground or Find Common Ground?
  32. Fit In or Stand Out?
  33. Protect Your Peace or Speak Up?
  34. Friends or Extended Family?
  35. Belonging or Independence?
  36. Know Your Limits or Test Your Limits?
  37. Help Yourself or Help Others?
  38. Small Daily Kindnesses or One Defining Sacrifice?
  39. Jack of all Trades or Specialist?
  40. Change the System or Change One Life?
  41. Education or Life Experience?
  42. Art: Beauty or Truth?
  43. Take Advice or Ignore Advice?
  44. Love: Feeling or Choice?
  45. Past was Better or Future will be Better?
  46. Wisdom: Knowing More or Needing Less?

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