21 Questions Game

This question will help you understand what they think is important. If their answer gets included in the highlight reel of their life so far, it must be pretty important to how they see themselves and their place in the world.

They might answer a couple of different ways on this one. Is it a subject they feel is often neglected? Is it a set of controversial beliefs or facts that they feel get left out? Perhaps it's the more practical skills that get over looked? You'll learn a little more about how they view the world after this question.

While some of the other questions focus on what has happened in the past, this question let's you know how they want their future to play out. When they look back on their life, what do they want to have accomplished.

What are they passionate about? What do they think is most important? This question will help you figure out the answer to these questions and more.

Depending on where the person is in their life, you might find out what they didn't like about their parents or perhaps you'll get a glimpse into the type of parent they would like to be.

This is straight up an ethics question. You can see how close you both are in your ethical beliefs.

Follow up question: If you said yes, would you change answer if the one life was a friend’s life and the ten were strangers? If no, why not?

The bit about a friend's life is for getting an idea of how much they value their tribe vs. those outside of it.

We all put on masks for different social situations. Sometimes those masks resemble who we are underneath and sometimes they don't. Hopefully this question will help you get a glimpse of who the person truly is.

I just thought this was a fun question. You could get any number of answers that might help you understand more about what kind of person they are. But mostly it's just because it's a fun question to answer.

This is a great one to see how much they pay attention to the broader world, but it can also be a good gauge of how nationalistic they are. It can also tell you where they think their focus should be, themselves, family, their community, their country, or humanity as a whole.

Not everyone rides the hype train. Find out more about what they like and if their interests coincide with your own.

I like this one because it's broad enough for them to pick a type of person (quiet or talkative) or a specific person (famous or influential individual). And either one they choose can tell you a lot about what they are interested in or what they value.

This is a fun question because you can commiserate if it's something you don't know how to do, joke if it's something silly, or learn more about them if it's something serious.

We all have regrets. With this question you can learn more about what they regret, but also what kind of values they consider important. Because, let's be honest, you probably wouldn't undo something you didn't think was important.

Another one that attempts to get a look at the who the person really is. It's up to the person whether that their answer is about stereotypes, their public face, or gossip that has been spread about them.

This will hopefully lead to some thoughtful introspection. How much have they learned from their life so far and how much do they acknowledge the things they still don't know.

Technology plays a big part in this world of ours and it helps to think about the role it plays. Hopefully they will give you more than just a yes or a no for this question, but even if it is a one word answer you'll know how much they value their privacy.

How addicted to their phones are they? You can find that out. Plus you can find out if they think about how society functions or if they are mostly just focused on themselves.

This question is great for bringing out some funny and embarrassing stories. Sharing a laugh over something embarrassing can be a great way to get closer to someone. You might also be able to gauge how serious they take themselves.

Similar to the earlier question undoing something in the past, but this one is aimed more at what they have learned from their mistakes. And how they would take advantage of all the knowledge they've gained.

This question is more about getting at what they really enjoy doing. You'll be able to see what their idea of a perfect day is and how much you both have in common when it comes to entertainment.

Gender, race, and nationality are huge factors in society and individual lives. With this question, hopefully you'll be able to learn a little bit more about how they view these very important topics.