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Personal questions to ask a girl

Is there a woman you would like to get to know on a more personal level? Don’t worry, we’ve got some questions that will help you with that. Below is a list of quality personal questions to ask a girl.

These questions are designed to scratch the surface and get a little more information about what a person’s life is like and who they are. You’ll find out more about what makes them who they are and perhaps even hear about a few secrets that they haven’t told many people.

Personal questions to ask a girl list

There should be enough questions to pick out a few gems that you want to ask. Just make sure to ask follow-up questions to fill out the conversation.

1. What is the strangest habit you have?

Everyone has some quirky things they do regularly. And while it’s not exactly a deep dark secret, it’s probably something that they haven’t admitted to a lot of people. Sharing small, slightly embarrassing things is a great way to build trust.

2. What movie made you cry the most?

With this question, you can see what types of things tug at her heartstrings and possibly how often she cries at movies. And if you’ve seen the same movie, you can talk about it, or if you haven’t, you can ask what she found so touching about it.

3. What is the most embarrassing thing you own?

Definitely a very personal question, but hey, you are on a page titled “Personal Questions to Ask a Girl.” I like this one because sharing embarrassing things we own or have done brings people closer together.

4. What do you hope you grow out of?

We all change as we get older. And we all have habits or quirks in our personality that we wish we could get rid of. With this question, you can find out what things she hopes to shed as she gets older.

5. What is the healthiest and unhealthiest thing you do regularly?

Health is a broad and subjective thing. She might focus on mental health, physical health, or even spiritual health. Perhaps a mix of all three. Whatever direction she chooses, it will tell you a lot about what she considers to be important to her overall health.

6. How much do you judge a person by their appearance?

There is a good chance you won’t get a totally honest answer to this question. No one likes to admit to being shallow, even though before talking to someone, looks are the only thing we have to make judgments about a person. But you never know, she might surprise you with a completely honest answer.

7. What was one of the happiest moments of your childhood?

Reminiscing about earlier days seems to be a popular pastime for most people, especially as you get older. But even if she is young, who doesn’t love reliving a beloved childhood memory?

8. What was the worst date that you’ve been on?

While everyone enjoys remembering the good old days, it can also be fun telling stories about dating disasters. Chances are that she has some good stories to share about dates that turned into train wrecks. You’ve probably got a few stories as well. It’s all part of the bittersweet process of dating.

9. What’s your favorite vacation memory from when you were a child?

More childhood memories? Sure, why not?! Talking about fond memories is a great way to foster a positive atmosphere. And what is more fun when you are a kid than vacations? Of course, if she talked about a vacation for the earlier childhood memory question, you might want to give this one a pass.

10. What belief do you have that most people disagree with?

So this one can go a little off the rails, especially if you strongly disagree with her belief. But if it’s a belief that you also share, it can lead to a great conversation. Even if you disagree strongly with the belief, at least it’s good to know that she has that belief.

11. What impression do you try to give when you first meet someone?

It’s rare for people to show their true selves to everyone they meet. As one comedian said, you aren’t meeting them, you are meeting their representative. So, what is her representative like? What kind of first impression does she strive for? Is it the same for everyone, or does it change based on who she is meeting?

12. Who or what inspires you to be a better person?

This is a great conversation starter because it’s easy to fall into a conversation about their heroes, their hopes and dreams, and who they want to be. It’s also perfect for finding out what she considers to be a “better” person. Because what a “better” person means is pretty subjective.

13. What’s the TLDR description of your last relationship?

Whether you want to ask this one or not depends a lot on the type of conversation you are trying to have. It’s definitely super personal and will probably send signals that you are interested in past relationships, which can be a touchy subject. So while it can be a great conversation question in the right setting, it can also be a conversation killer if you aren’t reading her signals.

14. If you found out your current life has been just a dream, would you choose to wake up? (You don’t know if your real life would be better or worse.)

Kind of like the Matrix, but possibly without the dystopian flare to it. Maybe they are just in a coma, and when they wake up, they’ll have a whole new life. But really what this question is shooting for is whether they like big changes and adventure or to play it safe. It might also spark off a conversation about how happy they are with their life as it stands.

15. What dumb thing did you believe for a really long time?

Another question that is meant to bring people closer through admitting embarrassing moments. Plus, it can also be good for a laugh. Try to have one of your own embarrassing things you believed ready after her answer so she can have a laugh at your expense as well.

16. What are some things you would like to achieve before you die?

The bucket list always makes for a fun conversation question because each item on the list can be a jumping-off point for a great conversation. Plus, you can share some of your own, and probably you’ll have quite a few in common.

17. Where would you like to retire?

Maybe someplace quiet in the country or perhaps someplace in the city with lots of things to do. You can also ask about what kinds of things she would like to do when she retires. Chances are they are things she would love to do these days but just can’t find the time.

18. What brings you the most joy in life?

So many ways this question can go, and all are usually pretty interesting and enlightening. It’s the perfect question for finding out what she loves most in this world. And it’s really easy to have a nice long conversation with this one because it’s something she is passionate about.

19. What is the best and worst part of your personality?

This question, if answered truthfully, will tell you a LOT about her. Just remember that even if she is completely frank and honest, these are the things that she perceives as the best and worst parts of her personality. We as humans often have a huge blind spot when it comes to our own personality and behavior. But it’s still very enlightening to hear what a person perceives as the worst and best parts of their personality.

20. When looking for a SO, what three things are most important (besides looks)?

What a person looks for in a SO tells you a lot about what they value in their relationships in general. It lets you know what values and character traits she values highest of all.

21. What is the most frightening thing you have ever done?

Handle this question with care. And make sure you let her know that you don’t mind skipping it. I say this because, while most of the time her answer will be something normal and will lead to a good conversation, it can also drag up traumatic memories. Just be aware that it’s possible asking this question might lead to some dark places.

More questions to ask a girl

We’ve got our big list of questions to ask a girl, as well as several others: