Looking to get to know a girl a little bit better or need some questions for a girl you’ve known long time? Tired of the same old small talk questions? We’re here to help with a list of interesting and engaging questions to ask a girl. These aren’t your normal run of the mill questions and some can actually get quite deep.
These questions will definitely get an interesting conversation going. You can pick and choose the ones you like or you can just ask them all. I added a bit of commentary about how to use each question and some possible ways to take the conversation. You can read through the commentary or just skip it. Your choice.
These questions are great as stand alone questions to ask a girl, but for a really great conversation you’ll want to ask her plenty of follow up questions. Enjoy the great conversation, you can thank me later! If you’d prefer an image or PDF of our questions to ask a girl we’ve got both of those at the bottom of the page.
Questions to ask a girl
Question 1: What random stranger has had the biggest impact on your life?
This is one that she’ll probably have to take some time to think about, because it’s not a common question. But it can be a lot of fun to answer and can be quite thought provoking as well. Plus, she’ll get to tell a story about her past and how it affects who she is today; which is always good to know.
To keep the conversation going; remember to ask more details about her story, ask about other random strangers that had an impact on her life, or tell her about a random stranger that had a big impact on your life.
Question 2: What achievement are you proud of but most people would consider silly or weird?
This question is a great way to find out more about who she really is and what she finds interesting / fun. If the girl you are talking to is a girlfriend you might be able to use that info to create a game / competition that only you and she plays or it might turn out to be great for future gift ideas. However she answers this question, you’ll probably learn something new and interesting about her. Don’t forget to ask a lot about the details.
Question 3: What period in history had the best fashion?
Not all girls are into fashion, but a fair number of them are. Even if she isn’t way into fashion, she still might like this question. It’s probably something she has an opinion on, but I can almost guarantee no one has ever asked her. To expand the conversation, you might want to ask about if different time periods were better for different genders.
Question 4: What silly or funny thing makes you afraid or creeps you out?
This is a fun question that doesn’t quite delve into deep fears, but can still get strong reaction. You can talk about why the thing creeps her out and if she has any funny stories about the thing she is afraid of. You could also move the topic into more serious fears if you wanted to get a bit deeper. But feel free to keep it light and talk about humorous fears.
Question 5: How quickly do you jump to conclusions about people?
This one is a great question to find out more about how she views other people and what stereotypes she has. To further the conversation, you can ask her about what she thought of you the first time she saw or met you. Or you can ask her about what the telltale signs for a good and bad person are.
Question 6: How would the world change if super heroes and super villains actually existed?
This is a question to get the creative juices flowing and I’m sure you both can come up with some funny and interesting situations that would arise if super heroes / villains existed. Sure, the girl you are talking to might not be too into this question if they don’t like comics or watching super hero movies. But with how popular super hero movies are, it’s probably a safe bet she’ll enjoy this question. If she doesn’t like those types of movies though, you might want to give this one a pass.
Question 7: What would be your strategy for surviving an apocalyptic epidemic?
Another one that is a bit off the wall, but I’m sure we’ve all thought about it. Especially with how popular post apocalyptic shows, movies, and books are. This one is an easy one to expand into a long conversation, because you can discuss the merits of each strategy compared with each scenario. I mean, there have literally been books written about this. So yeah, lots to talk about. Especially if you two are into the post apocalyptic genre.
Question 8: What is the most important change that should be made to your country’s education system?
This one is a bit more serious. But you can see how much she is into social change and probably get a good idea of her political leanings. Or you might find that she doesn’t really care about it. Either way it’s good intel. You can easily expand this question by bouncing different ideas off of each other and talking about the merits of each idea.
Question 9: What is something you think you will regret in the future not starting now and what is something you already regret not starting sooner?
Oh procrastination. Yep, we all do it. This will let you know how much she procrastinates as well as letting you know about what some of her goals are and what she finds important. Try not to nag her about her answers, because one, she probably already feels bad about it and two, you probably have stuff that you should’ve already started. If your goals line up, it’s a great way to get a conversation going about what you both would like to accomplish in the future. Also, it’s great opportunity to complain about how busy the present is.
Question 10: What part of your culture are you most and least proud of?
Our culture makes up a large part of who we are and she is no different. This one can get a bit deep but it’s definitely fertile ground for a good conversation. So dive in on cultural matters and see where you both have similar viewpoints and where you differ. There will be lots of chances for follow up questions. Just remember, listen and ask questions; don’t just think of the next thing you are going to say.
Question 11: What’s the worst and best thing about being female?
A great question that she is sure to have plenty to say about. If you are severely grossed out by feminine body stuff you might be tempted to give it a pass. But who knows, you might actually learn some stuff you didn’t know. And plus they have to live with a bunch of pain in the ass stuff that goes on with their body, the least we can do is to learn a bit about it and be thankful we don’t have to deal with it (I’m assuming you are a guy reading this, but I could be wrong).
Lots of chances for follow up questions to learn more, but yeah if it’s about bodily stuff you might not want to pry too much. But the good stuff about being a woman is great to ask questions about. You can also talk about what’s good about being a guy.
Question 12: If you could put your brain in a robot and live indefinitely, would you?
A couple of large philosophical questions wrapped up in a fun hypothetical question. You could talk about what makes a human a human. Or you could chat about the merits and drawbacks of living indefinitely. Or you could just talk about how cool it would be to have robot body decked out with lasers *pew* *pew*!
Question 13: If you could replace the handshake as a greeting, what interesting new greeting would you replace it with?
This is a rather silly question, but it can be a lot of fun. Plus it’s doubly hilarious when you both try out different greetings. Try out secret hand shakes or high fives with elbows, you are only limited by your creativity.
Question 14: Who’s the worst guest you’ve had in your house and what did they do?
This is usually good for a funny story. And she’ll enjoy it because it gives her the chance to break out one of her good stories. Encourage lots of details and ask lots of questions.
Question 15: When does time pass fastest for you and when does it pass the slowest?
What does she enjoy and what bores her? If you don’t know, well now you’ll know! For follow up questions you can ask about more examples or you can prompt her with activities to see which ones she finds tedious and which ones make time fly by.
Question 16: What always sounds like a good idea at the time but rarely is?
This is just a fun mental exercise in coming up with humorous / true examples. And I can almost guarantee there are some good stories about bad decisions to be had from both of you. See what you can come up with and see who has the craziest stories.
Question 17: Are humans fundamentally different than animals? If so, what makes us different?
Whoa, what is this serious question doing here? Yep, be prepared for a conversation filled with landmines like religion and other strongly held beliefs. This question is not one to be busted out lightly, so pick the right time or just skip it. Nothing wrong with keeping a conversation light but I’ve always enjoyed a good deep conversation as well. So dive in or give it a pass, it’s up to you.
Question 18: What pictures or paintings have had a big impact on you?
This is also one she probably hasn’t been asked before and she might have never thought about it. But I can almost guarantee that examples will leap to her mind when you ask her the question. This is question is pretty cool because you can pull up the pictures / painting up on your phone. You’ll probably get to see some cool pictures you’ve never seen.
Question 19: What movie or book character are you most similar to?
If nothing else, this question will tell you how she views herself or who she wants to be more like. Always good to know, and a lot fun think about as well. There is a reason those quizzes are so popular on social media.
You could split the question into two parts, which character do you wish you could be more like and which do you think you are actually like. Or move the conversation into what books and movies she is into. You could also talk about which characters are the most interesting or unique.
Question 20: You can broadcast one sentence to every TV channel and radio in the world and have it translated to each country’s language. What sentence do you say?
A question that just begs for creativity. You can think of a lot of sentences that would have a lot of effects. You can take it in a more humorous direction, get serious with it, or a bit of both. However she wants to answer the question, remember to always ask why and find out more. Think of some more examples and try to think of what sentence would have the most impact or have the funniest outcome.
Question 21: What fact are you really surprised that more people don’t know about?
Hey who doesn’t love learning new facts? Try to think of facts that the other person doesn’t know. You’ll learn something new and have some fun tidbits to talk about. Just remember to talk about each fact and not just fire off facts rapid fire.
Question 22: What are you completely over and done with?
So with this question there really isn’t any way to predict what she’ll say, because there are so many different ways this question can go. She might talk about a current fad or fashion, she might talk about a friend, really it could be anything.
But whatever she chooses to talk about, we all love talking about things that annoy us and she will too!
Question 23: What memory do you just keep going back to?
Perfect for getting to know a little bit more about her. Whether it’s a serious memory or just one of those passing things that sticks with us sometimes, either way it’s a great window into her world.
Just a heads up though, this one can get real serious in a hurry depending on what memory she decides to share.
Question 24: What’s the most immature thing your parents do?
It doesn’t really matter how old someone is, they still do immature things. Sometimes those things are silly and fun, sometimes they are more selfish or hurtful.
Either way, this is a question that she’s probably never been asked before and can lead to some really interesting answers!
Question 25: What are you most passionate about and what do you wish you were more passionate about?
I love this question because it gets to the heart of who a person is or at least how they see themselves. You can see what actually interests her versus what person she wishes she could be. This one might even give you a glimpse into the direction she wants to take her life in.
Question 26: What’s the best comeback you’ve ever heard?
A really fun and often funny question. Chances are she has a pretty good story about an amazing comeback. Plus, you can tell any comeback stories you know. I mean, who doesn’t like hearing about a great comeback?
Question 27: Who haven’t you seen or talked to in a long time and hope they are doing okay?
Another question that delves a little into the past. Perfect for getting to know her a little better. Get ready for a little reminiscing. Sure it’s probably no one you know, but it’s someone who is or was important to her.
Question 28: Where is the last place you would ever go?
No telling what she’ll come up with for this question. You can get pretty creative with it or you can answer it literally. Either way, it’ll probably require a bit of thought but could lead a really great answer.
Question 29: What’s something that you’ve never been able to do well?
Sharing faults and shortcomings can be a great way for two people to become closer. Just make sure to be supportive and don’t make fun of what she can’t do, that kind of ruins the point of the whole question.
Question 30: Who is the humblest person you know?
Kind of a random question but it might give you some insight into the people she chooses to surround herself with or the people she looks up to.
Question 31: What is the silliest reason someone you’ve known has completely lost it?
Another one of those questions for pulling out a good story. I’m sure you’ve got a funny story about someone losing it to share as well. Great for a laugh and for getting a conversation going.
Question 32: What is quite possibly the most annoying thing ever?
We all get annoyed at things, now you can see what she finds annoying. Probably a good idea to try and avoid doing the things she finds annoying. And there’s a good chance that you’ll both share something that you find annoying and it’s always good finding things in common.
Question 33: What do you wish people would stop asking you?
At every stage of life, you hear questions over and over again. Whether it’s questions about your future, questions about life circumstances, or questions about personal things. Everyone gets asked the same questions over and over again.
Pro tip: don’t ask her the questions she is tired of being asked!
Question 34: What is the most unusual fear you have?
A question that can get really funny or really weird. Either way it’s a fun question that people generally like answering. Who knows, you may share an unusual fear!
Question 35: What is your favorite TV show?
Sure this one is a really common question, but it’s great because if you are into the show too you have a ton to talk about. And if you haven’t seen it, now you have a good show to watch. Plus, if you don’t know anything about it she’ll probably enjoy telling you about it.
Question 36: What’s the most ridiculous argument you’ve had?
I can almost guarantee this one will lead to a funny story. One that she will enjoy telling and you’ll enjoy listening to. I’m sure you both have plenty of ridiculous argument stories, especially if you have siblings.
Question 37: What’s the biggest lesson life has taught you?
More of a serious question but it can be a really good beginning to a conversation. Plus, you’ll learn more about what makes her who she is and why she is the way she is now.
Question 38: What is increasingly becoming socially acceptable?
You might learn some about what movements she supports or doesn’t support. But really this question is more about starting an interesting conversation about society.
Just remember, it’s okay that people have different viewpoints than you. This isn’t a debate. You aren’t trying to convince her you are right.
Question 39: What’s the weirdest tradition your family has?
I’ve come to the belief that no family is totally normal. There are weird traditions and customs in every family. Often people don’t even know that other families do or don’t do a certain ritual or tradition.
That’s why this is a perfect question for finding out more about her family and how she grew up as well as sharing some about your family.
Question 40: If you could choose anyone living or dead, who would you choose to lead our country?
Possibly political but this one will probably end up getting more of a creative answer. It can tell you a lot about what direction she’d like the country to head in or it might let you know that she isn’t into politics.
Question 41: What app on your phone do you wish you used more?
A little different spin on the normal “what’s your favorite / most used app” question. We’ve all got apps on our phones (usually self-improvement / education apps) that we mean to start using but never get around to.
Also this question is a great gateway question for a discussion about apps.
Question 42: Who was the most power mad person you’ve met?
Kind of an odd question, I debated whether to include it on this list. But it might lead to an interesting story, so I decided to leave it in.
Feel free to skip this one if you aren’t into it or don’t think she’ll find it interesting.
Question 43: What world famous monument do you have no interest in visiting?
A pretty random question, but great for seeing what she isn’t into. It can definitely lead to some interesting answers and you’ll learn a lot more about how much she likes / dislikes travel.
Question 44: What is something that you think people are only pretending to like or are deluding themselves into liking?
A perfect question for finding out what trends or fads she just doesn’t see the point in. Definitely not a normally asked question but it can get some really interesting answers.
Question 45: What joke went way too far?
This one can get dark quick depending on what story she decides to tell. Just a heads up. Still a great question though and can lead to an interesting story.
Question 46: What are some of the telltale signs that a guy is creepy?
So we all know people that seem a bit creepy. So, what mannerisms makes them seem creepy? Are they really creepy or just a little socially awkward? This can really lead to a great conversation about how humans view each other.
Question 47: What is your very first memory?
A little question that probably won’t tell you much about her, but it’s still a fun question to answer. We all like talking about ourselves after all.
Question 48: What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve said or done around someone you had a crush on?
Get ready for some cringing. She might not want to let you know, but if she does it can be a really good question for bringing out a good story. You might want to skip this one if you just met her but it’s great if you’ve known her for a while.
Question 49: Who is your favorite actor or actress?
Another question that is a little generic but perfect for learning what types of movies she is into. Also a great intro into a conversation if you also like one of the actors or actresses she mentions.
Plus, it’s easy to spin this question off into a discussion about movies. Because who doesn’t like movies?
Question 50: What doesn’t exist but you desperately want / need it?
Perfect for some creative answers and blue sky brainstorming. It’s always fun imagining what form solutions to problems will take. Plus, you’ll both get to commiserate about problems currently without a solution.
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